Forge your own path

(and don’t be afraid to ask)

Welcome to my island of imposter syndrome surrounded with the ocean of no confidence and overlooked by the mountains of fear.

I’ve been struggling with my supervision sessions for a while. I have three amazing supervisors, all colleagues, all people I trust and have good relationships with. But supervision sessions were challenging for me (to say the least). There was a knot in my stomach as the time approached, I couldn’t articulate anything, I was confused by our discussions even though I was enjoying them. It totally caught me off-guard as I never expected it.

As I work with all three of them I also am lucky enough to have incidental conversations with them individually around the office, and sometimes while having a coffee catch up. It was during one of these conversations that I had the proverbial light-bulb moment. I pondered over it for a few days and then approached all three with my suggested solution.

Instead of having a supervision with all three at once, I have individual sessions which I write up to put in our Teams space for everyone to be able to read. While it was a little different, they all agreed. And it is, so far, working beautifully.

I have had two meetings this week and both have been more productive, more comfortable, and more freeing than any of my previous ones. I have been able to articulate my ideas, discuss my thoughts, enjoy the process.

So, my sage crone advice is … don’t be afraid to ask, don’t be afraid to do things differently, don’t be afraid to find a way to be more comfortable so you can get this done in a way that’s best for you.